Beyond the School Day
Parents and guardians often approach me for quality resources and referrals. Here are some suggestions on books, websites, community resources, and more.
If you are seeking a resource for your child but cannot find it on my website, please contact me! I would be happy to assist you with your search.
Also, if you happen to come across a book, movie, therapist, article, etc please feel free to share! I am always on the lookout for new resources!
This is a stressful and confusing time for all of us. If you have a child who is worried or curious about what's going on, here are some resources you might find helpful.
There are SO MANY resources popping up everywhere. Try not to be overwhelmed and just explore one at a time as you need. I will try to highlight the most helpful ones.
The Sylvania Schools Elementary School Counselors have put together a single website (many thanks to Mrs. Stack at Stranahan!) to provide resources to families during this school closure. Please take a look here.
Mrs. Stack, the school counselor at Stranahan Elementary, put together this resource for students all about COVID-19.
Channel 13 put together a piece for how to talk to your child about what is going on. Click here.
CBS News did a story as well. Click here.
Some tips and ideas:
Encourage kids to be pen pals with their friends. That or try the Marco Polo app that allows for video texting - just monitor their usage!
Have open and honest communication with your child. Let them ask questions (they might even want to write them down instead of ask out loud). It's OK if you don't have answers.
Let them know that all of their feelings are OK. (Remind them what Mrs. Hoffman always says - it's OK to have any feeling, but make sure we react safely and not mean or hurtful.)
I will add more resources as they become available. If you come across anything helpful please consider sharing!
Books for Parents & Children
Why Smart Kids Worry by Allison Edwards - This parenting book is my latest and greatest discovery. It describes children with anxiety perfectly and has great strategies for how to help.
What to Do When You Worry Too Much by Dawn Heubner - This workbook for children is a great resource to pair with the above mentioned book. I use it often when I work with anxious students.
Jack's Worry by Sam Zuppardi - This children's picture book is about a boy with a worry. The visuals are great for helping kids understand how worries can take over our minds, yet we can find the power to fight them off.
You've Got Dragons by Kathryn Cave and Nick Maland - children's book about worries and how they compare to dealing with a pet dragon that is always by your side!
Untangled by Lisa Damour - A fabulous book to help understand our daughters as they become young adults. Although it says teenagers, it definitely fits our 5th grade girl population. A must read!
1-2-3 Magic by Thomas Phelan - This is a book for parents that teaches effective discipline measures. I use these strategies with my own children!
Redirecting Children's Behavior by Kathryn Kvols - A great book for parents that helps us understand and addresses child behaviors.
Simon's Hook by Karen Burnett - This children's book really resonates with students as it gives them the strategies they need to deal with teasing. Kids learn how not take the bait. I read this book to all grade levels - a wonderful problem solving tool!
Dr. Jed Baker is a behavioral consultant and works with children to help with social skills. His books are all worth checking out, especially "The Social Skills Picture Book" for younger children and "Social Skills Training" for children and adolescents.
Wonder by R. J. Palacio - My all time favorite book! I would recommend it for any age 4th grade and up (this includes adults!). It is a touching story of a boy with a facial deformity who is often teased and ridiculed just for looking different. It is an amazing story that teaches kindness and helps our young readers build empathy. Check out the picture book, We're All Wonders, for younger students.
Each Kindness by Jacqueline Woodson
Be Kind by Pat Zietlow Miller
1-2-3 A Calmer Me by Brenda Miles and Colleen Patterson - a book for young children that teaches a calming strategies. I use this with kindergarten students.
Mindset Matters by Bryan Smith
Parenting Websites & Articles
Common Sense Media - A fabulous resource that guides parents and educators in keeping our children safe in a digital world. One of my favorites!
Wait Until 8th Take the pledge that you will wait until your child is in 8th grade before getting them a smartphone. This website lists many good reasons that children under 13 should wait to have their own smartphone. Please take the time to check this one out!
Kids in the House This website gives parenting advice from pregnancy to college.
Kids Health This website has advice for both kids and parents.
5 Sure Fire Ways to Stop the After School Attitude This article is one of my favorites! The author has great insight as to why children come home with such an attitude problem sometimes. Her advice on handling this is spot on!
Mama OT - A blog by a mother/pediatric occupational therapist. She has some insightful articles and ideas.
General Community Resources
NAMI of Greater Toledo - NAMI is an entirely FREE resource - yes, FREE! - for the community. Their mission is to "promote wellness for individuals and family members who are living with mental health issues and illness through dedicated support, education and advocacy in the greater Toledo area." Check out their website to see what programs and services they have going on.
Private Counseling - For a list of private outside counselors please contact me directly. I keep a list of local counselors/therapists based solely on word of mouth from Sylvania families who have made positive comments about their experiences. It is critical that you contact your healthcare insurance provider to make sure your appointments are covered.
For a list of private tutors please contact me directly. I try to keep a current list of educators and university students who offer private tutoring to children outside of school hours. Fees vary by tutor.
Divorce Care for Kids (DC4K) - This program offers support groups for children age 5-12. Sessions last for 13 weeks and are typically offered at local churches. (Religious in nature.) Each session is filled with games, crafts, role playing, discussions, journaling, and activity books that help children process the divorce and move forward in their lives. This is a FREE program aside from cost of materials.
Telling Your Kids About the Divorce This article is by a licensed social worker with over 15 years experience working with children and families of divorce.
*Do a library search for children's books about divorce. Read through and find one that might fit your situation prior to sharing with your child. Create an environment that allows your child to feel comfortable talking about divorce and asking questions. As a parent, you may not have all the answers and it is okay to gently tell them so.
When Mom and Dad Separate by Marge Heegaard - workbook for children
When Mom and Dad Divorce: A Kid's Resource by Emily Menendez-Aponte - children's book
Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown - children's book
Grief Brochure - I created this guide for families to learn how children experience grief and loss and what you can to do help them through the process.
There Is No Good Card For This: What to Say and Do When Life is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love - This book for adults to help us know what to say when we just don't know what to say.
OptionB.org - a website that addresses building resiliency. An amazing resource!
How Children Grieve - very helpful article for learning how children grieve and how you can help.
Good Grief - This amazing organization provides support for children, teens, young adults, and their families who have experienced the death of someone significant in their lives. This is also a FREE community resource. Free dinner is provided with each meeting.
Love is Forever - Children's Bereavement Support Group - This is also a FREE support group offered by Promedica. Sessions are monthly and include dinner. They meet in Sylvania.
The Grieving Child: A Parent's Guide by Helen Fitzgerald - I really appreciate this book to help children through their grief when someone close to them passes away.
Dying to Be Free: A Healing Guide for Families after a Suicide by Beverly Cobain and Jean Larch - Book for adults to address suicide of a loved one.
Sad Isn't Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing With Loss by Michaelene Mundy - children's book
When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown - children's book
I Miss You: A First Look at Death by Pat Thomas - children's book
Lifetimes - by Bryan Mellonie and Robert Ingpen
What On Earth Do You Do When Somone Dies? by Trevor Romaine - book for older children
*There are a great deal of grief and loss picture books at the library. Do a search and preview any book before sharing with your child. At first, read these books together with your child so you can answer questions and offer comfort.
Dawn Heubner is an amazing creator of children's workbooks and I would recommend any of them. Topics include overcoming negativity, dealing with anger, managing OCD, and battling worry, to name a few.
I would also recommend books by Julia Cook or Bryan Smith as they write about many topics that children often face.
The Sylvania Library is more than willing to help you find books on certain subjects beyond academics. Just ask them to help you find books regarding specific social-emotional topics. **I highly recommend trying this!